Have you ever ended up at a place in life that makes you legitimately ask yourself out loud, “Self, how did I get here?” While it seems like a rhetorical question, a part of you wishes that somehow a Jiminey Cricket™ of sorts will pop up out of thin air with the answer, and some sort of allegory that helps you turn your life around so you do not end up in the same place again.
For those of us who were born human and not a Disney character, it is up to us to answer the question on our own.
When you find yourself in a position where you are asking yourself this question, you already know why. Accepting the reason and taking accountability can be painful so it’s easier to avoid the answer; it is easier still, to blame another person or circumstance. So, what do you do? Where do you start?
These three very simple, yet challenging things can change things around:
“Own it!” When people say this, it just sounds like a scolding; I get it. On the contrary, taking accountability or “owning it” is such a powerful thing because taking accountability places you back the driver’s seat of your life and you can begin to call the shots again.
Figure out what you want.
This is one of the hardest things and most avoided question for many. What do I want? What do I want to be? Who am I? How do I become happy?
Switch your focus.
Focusing on the past will perpetuate it and you will find yourself feeling like Bill Murray in Groundhog Day. Whenever you get in the space of “how did I get here?” … it is easy to feel trapped in a trine of inner conflict that you cannot break free from. By taking accountability, figuring out what you want and switching your focus, you can break free of circular pattern of thinking and being.
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