When All Else Fails in Your Closet

Every woman comes out the womb screaming she has “nothing to wear.”  To quote the great philosopher Usher Raymond, these “situations will arise in our lives but, you’ve got to be smart about it!”

The little black dress

36 Chic Little Black Dress Outfits - Style Estate -

36 Chic Little Black Dress Outfits – Style Estate –

It always makes a big statement. It does not matter if it has been in heavy rotation for years like your favorite song on your iPod playlist. Add some accessories to the deal or a pair of textured or bright colored shoes and “Voila!” a whole new look.

The Classic White Shirt

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Paired with your most flattering jeans, this combo is the little outfit that could – and will – hit the mark every single time. Play up your hair and face.  Be sure to add a Boss Lady handbag or clutch and no one can tell you squat; unless of course, you actually do at the gym in which case is a total score!.. “Goal!”

The pencil skirt

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Adding a blouse or tank top makes a nice and easy ensemble to pull off that can coincidentally look like you’ve pulled out all the stops.  You can throw in a belt over it to seal the deal.  Whether you throw on a leather jacket, cropped denim jacket, or a bolero jacket/sweater … you’re good to go.

The Blazer

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The blazer can be worked into a casual outfit to transform a day look into night.  If you’re in a t shirt and jeans, add a blazer and some heels to complete a fun and stylish look.  It works every time!

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The Fourth Decade

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Amanda Mininger

One of my closest friends turned 40 today. I’ve been thinking about this one, trying to figure out why we put this much significance on a birthday, why we decorate this particular mile marker with lights and flowers and well-meaning phrases full of pith, borrowed from antiquity or Sex in the City, one of the two. I’ve had this conversation before with friends in their late 30s and early 40s, and we all say the same thing: “I don’t feel 40. I don’t know what it’s supposed to feel like, but whatever it is, I don’t feel it. Does it mean we have to wear longer skirts now?”

Whatever cause for contemplation there is, I’ll take the bait. I know that, at minimum, turning 40 gives us permission to take stock and see where we are, to ask of ourselves: What have I learned (if anything?) What have I…

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Why You Can’t Live Without Witch Hazel

Witch Hazel has become one of the most important items in my medicine cabinet.  It has multiple medical and aesthetic uses.  Topically, it can be applied for minor skin rash, irritation, bug bites and sunburn.  It can also clear up acne, blemishes, brighten skin, shrink pores and eye bags.thy-045178-1

I have used it for years now.  I cleanse my face and splash Thayer’s Witch Hazel with lemon on it and let it air dry before I apply makeup.  I use nothing else.  I have not had a break out since.  It gives a natural dewy glow without over drying your skin or leaving it greasy.  At night, I also put some on a cotton swab to remove eye make up and I dab a little extra under my eyes so that I do not wake up looking too tired or worn out.

There are many other uses for Witch Hazel.  Please check out some articles listed below for further uses.

17 Genius Uses of Witch Hazel

Uses for Witch Hazel

So, I said to myself… Self…

How do you view yourself? Is how you view yourself congruent with who are? How can you tell?

These are self-assessment questions everyone should ask themselves periodically – particularly when their lives are on the verge of change. Are the same formulas still working for you? What is your current level of inner peace? Are you happy? Are you sleeping well at night? Is your load heavy? How can you lighten it?

 

Self-assessment can be a scary thing. Sometimes we do not want to look back or within but looking back and looking within will provide the clues and tools necessary to move onward to your next destination. Looking back a year ago today… where were you? What were your biggest fears and concerns? What were your accomplishments? What goals have you set since? Have you achieved them? Who had been helpful and supportive when needed along the way?

 

In life we can accumulate a lot of things like methods of doing things, people and paradigms that are no longer suitable. Once a bipedal adult, one reckons the fastest was to get around is not on all fours as a quadruped. This is no different from maturing and shedding old thought patterns, influences and extracting lessons from experiences had that help shape you to become who you are while honing your skills to identify and circumvent recurrences of not-so-pleasant situations, experiences, and people. This too, like handwriting, is a skill that takes practice. It is a difficult skill at first because looking back and looking within can dredge up feelings that are unpleasant.

 

Feelings are what make us human and perhaps, so incredibly beautifully flawed. Good feelings are better than any possible high known to man. Bad feelings… well… I know I do not stand alone when I say I’d rather break a bone than feel bereaved or dejected. The reality is, there is no avoiding it; and often, it comes without warning. Not dealing with feelings and filing them away in the back of your mind is like cleaning a loaded gun with the safety off – someone, is bound to get hurt – either you are someone around you. Unresolved feelings can hinder your progression in various areas of your life. Keeping yourself extrinsically occupied will not diminish those buried feelings within.

 

It is frightening to go searching for those old dingy feelings, but it’s less disastrous to find them and purge them than allowing them to emerge spontaneously. I heard a lecture by Bill Johnson called, “The War in Your Head” and he said something profound,…

“every response in life we have is either out of LOVE or out of FEAR.  The source of our words, responses, our directives in life… the things we choose to pursue, the things we choose not to pursue are either because of love and fear.”

So,… ask yourself, what do you love? What do you love to do?  What would you love to do?  What are you afraid of? What are you holding on to so tightly that you’re afraid to lose?

 

This is the precipice of self-assessment and therein is keys to unlocking who you are, where you’ve been and where you’re going. Defuse the pain of past experiences by extracting the lessons you’ve learned from them and set out to love more. This way you can make room for new experience and new people. Identify your sources of love and support and avoid sources that provide contrary influence. Keep moving and keep checking.