I’ve found myself engaged in the same conversation with different people as of late. The common denominator was being on the brink of making a choice that would essentially change their life’s direction and possible who they are. Every now and again we do come at a fork in the road and almost like a multiple choice question, the answers all seem similar but yet there is truly “just right” – just as there is only one path that is truly just right, for you… right now…
Deep down we all know the answer. Deep down we have the answer but what leads us to perceive we have difficult choices before us is what drives us. Desire or Necessity? Want Vs. Need. These two one syllable words are deceptively simple concepts that can easily be misconstrued and misinterpreted at any given time.
After all, one can want something/someone they do not need and one can need something/someone they do not want. – Lolitasays
Wants (desires) are essentially wishes to that one hopes to fulfill that is believed will make them happier or mores successful.
Because nothing is as good as you can imagine it. No one is as beautiful as she is in your head. Nothing is as exciting as your fantasy. ― Chuck Palahniuk
Needs (necessities) are essentially means to sustain one’s well-being; this encompasses the physical, spiritual, psychological, and emotional aspects.
Wants are never truly concrete but more abstract are hardwired to egotistical/vain concepts that are not truly tangible which is why getting what we want is not always as gratifying as we anticipated. Sometimes it can be downright disappointing leading to “now what!?!”
The unreal is more powerful than the real, because nothing is as perfect as you can imagine it.– Chuck Palahniuk
Needs are simply means you absolutely cannot live without. Needs are concrete and facilitate your existence and ability to thrive in a healthy and positive way. Many a time, needs are not presented in an attractive package like wants are but nonetheless if you go without a need it has a more detrimental impact than going without a want. Getting what we need yields contentment and a lasting gratification particularly when one knows what it is like to go without.
Something to think about when you’re trying to decide which way to go…
No one says you have to be the same person you were yesterday. No one says you have to be the same person you were just five minutes ago. Changing is a choice. The choices you make can shift your paradigm and although you remain in the same environment among the same people, you can be a different person and therefore have an entirely different experience than before.
If you choose to be happy, you will notice the distinction in how you deal with unhappy people. Moreover, they will notice it too.
“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” – Paulo Coelho
If you choose to live your life looking through the windshield rather than the rear view mirror, you will notice new opportunities and encounter new people that will yield new experiences.
You have to be the catalyst of the change. It must start inside. It must start with you.
Like ripples in water a single simple choice undulates and echoes throughout the universe. Not only does a simple choice affect you, but those around you in inconceivable ways. If you choose to say hello to someone versus just walking past them can possibly make or break their day setting off a social butterfly effect.
The most difficult part of the process is simply making the choice.
“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Every woman comes out the womb screaming she has “nothing to wear.” To quote the great philosopher Usher Raymond, these “situations will arise in our lives but, you’ve got to be smart about it!”
The little black dress
36 Chic Little Black Dress Outfits – Style Estate –
It always makes a big statement. It does not matter if it has been in heavy rotation for years like your favorite song on your iPod playlist. Add some accessories to the deal or a pair of textured or bright colored shoes and “Voila!” a whole new look.
The Classic White Shirt
Paired with your most flattering jeans, this combo is the little outfit that could – and will – hit the mark every single time. Play up your hair and face. Be sure to add a Boss Lady handbag or clutch and no one can tell you squat; unless of course, you actually do at the gym in which case is a total score!.. “Goal!”
The pencil skirt
Adding a blouse or tank top makes a nice and easy ensemble to pull off that can coincidentally look like you’ve pulled out all the stops. You can throw in a belt over it to seal the deal. Whether you throw on a leather jacket, cropped denim jacket, or a bolero jacket/sweater … you’re good to go.
The blazer can be worked into a casual outfit to transform a day look into night. If you’re in a t shirt and jeans, add a blazer and some heels to complete a fun and stylish look. It works every time!