No one says you have to be the same person you were yesterday. No one says you have to be the same person you were just five minutes ago. Changing is a choice. The choices you make can shift your paradigm and although you remain in the same environment among the same people, you can be a different person and therefore have an entirely different experience than before.
If you choose to be happy, you will notice the distinction in how you deal with unhappy people. Moreover, they will notice it too.
“And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.” – Paulo Coelho
If you choose to live your life looking through the windshield rather than the rear view mirror, you will notice new opportunities and encounter new people that will yield new experiences.
You have to be the catalyst of the change. It must start inside. It must start with you.
Like ripples in water a single simple choice undulates and echoes throughout the universe. Not only does a simple choice affect you, but those around you in inconceivable ways. If you choose to say hello to someone versus just walking past them can possibly make or break their day setting off a social butterfly effect.
The most difficult part of the process is simply making the choice.
“Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.” – Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.
Every woman comes out the womb screaming she has “nothing to wear.” To quote the great philosopher Usher Raymond, these “situations will arise in our lives but, you’ve got to be smart about it!”
The little black dress
36 Chic Little Black Dress Outfits – Style Estate –
It always makes a big statement. It does not matter if it has been in heavy rotation for years like your favorite song on your iPod playlist. Add some accessories to the deal or a pair of textured or bright colored shoes and “Voila!” a whole new look.
The Classic White Shirt
Paired with your most flattering jeans, this combo is the little outfit that could – and will – hit the mark every single time. Play up your hair and face. Be sure to add a Boss Lady handbag or clutch and no one can tell you squat; unless of course, you actually do at the gym in which case is a total score!.. “Goal!”
The pencil skirt
Adding a blouse or tank top makes a nice and easy ensemble to pull off that can coincidentally look like you’ve pulled out all the stops. You can throw in a belt over it to seal the deal. Whether you throw on a leather jacket, cropped denim jacket, or a bolero jacket/sweater … you’re good to go.
The blazer can be worked into a casual outfit to transform a day look into night. If you’re in a t shirt and jeans, add a blazer and some heels to complete a fun and stylish look. It works every time!
A portmanteau of friend and enemy; an enemy who acts like a friend. Sometimes spelled frienemy.
PERSON WHO HATES ON YOU BUT LOVES YOU SOO MUCH!
THEY WANT TO BE YOUR FRIEND…
BECAUSE YOUR LIFE IS BETTER THAN THEIRS.
THEY ENJOY YOUR SHINE..
The type of “friend” whose words or actions bring you down(whether you realize it as intentional or not). The type of friend you ought to cut off but don’t cuz… they’re
nice… good …you’ve had good times with them. U know… they’re good people that you can count on to bring you down again sometime in the near future. The friend you may or may not have cornered about their quicksand like ways and keep around because “it’s in the past”… and so was one minute ago; the person that will continue to bring you down until you demand better for yourself.
When you ask yourself is that person my friend or enemy…they are your frenemy. Straighten ‘em out or leave them. Don’t put up with it.
– JUSSTRIGHT September 14, 2010
Sometimes, out of love we turn a blind eye to friends that have gradually turned negative, toxic and abusive right before our eyes. For a myriad of reasons, we may sympathize with their current life situation and therefore allow them to dump their negativity and abuse in our laps when they have an episode. When we find ourselves saying to ourselves or others “she/he is a really good person, it’s just… ” That “JUST” is a conditioned justification for the inappropriate behavior and when you find yourself often saying “it’s just’… it’s time to evaluate whether you have a friend or frenemy within your midst.The type of ‘friend’ whose words or actions bring you down (whether you realize it as intentional or not).
The type of friend you ought to cut off but don’t cuz…they’re nice… good …you’ve had good times with them. U know…they’re good people that you can count on to bring you down again sometime in the near future.The friend you may or may not have cornered about their quicksand like ways and keep around because “its in the past”…and so was one minute ago.The person that will continue to bring you down until you demand better for yourself
–tweetybird1 May 25, 2006
It may not be that easy to spot who is who, however it can be apparent by the way you are made to feel after having encountered them. The spectre at the feast, doling out back handed compliments in front of everyone or blatant put downs. The friend that is always there when something is wrong but seems to always have something to do when you are celebrating something right. The friend that encourages you with poor advice or flat out expects you to accommodate them without consideration for you at every turn regardless of what you have going on.
A person with whom you may have a lot of fun and /or a lot in common, who also has a vile and random dark side. These relationships are worth doing a cost/benefit analysis on. Also, limiting relationships with frenemies to non-SO relationships is a must. Why? Because it’s ultimately all about them after all, and you will need to be in a position to get away from them for indefinite periods of time. Know too, *that you will probably become their frenemy as well -because you won’t be able to keep from talking behind their back. If this happens, don‘t expect everyone to get it – some will wonder why this person enrages you so much and others will wonder what you see in them.
It is recommended for your own safety/sanity that you limit yourself to one frenemy at any given time in your life.
– WhoWantzToKnow July 10, 2008
Take notice if your friendship dynamic begins to feel like a competition. Friendship is about being there for one another, through good and bad and also empowering one another. Friends help each other, pick each other up and build each other up. If you’re being put down, let down or torn down … you have a frenemy. Frenemies are more dangerous than enemies because you’re on guard with your foes and you allow yourself to bevulnerable to your friends. You let them in your heart and let them peer into your soul therefore providing them with the tools they need to sharpen the dagger with which they stab you in the back or the chest at any given moment. Having a frenemy and receiving the Judas treatment in life is as certain as death and taxes. However, keeping them in your life is entirely optional. Just because you have known someone for years and years does not make them entitled to oppressing you. There is no excuse for it. Frenemies are individuals who have learned to thrive off relational aggression. They wield weapons that we have provided them on our own volition only to ride the backlash to make amends until the next time. Second verse same as the first. This vicious cycle creates a very toxic atmosphere than can, in turn, become addicting. Nothing good can come from such a vicious cycle although frenemies are propagated everywhere – Mean Girls, Housewives of Whomever/Wherever,.. list goes on and on. Although I cannot think off the top of my head, a good example of friends,… other than the television show “Friends” … I can say a true friend would never display the qualities or behaviors above.