I had a GNI (Girls Night In) evening last night and rented a movie called “Knock, Knock” starring Keanu Reeves. I must admit I knew nothing about the movie prior. I had never seen a preview trailer but was gripped by the concept of the plot because it is something that does occur but hardly ever reported or talked about. Apparently this film is a Sundance film that premiered earlier 2015. It is centered around a topic we are conditioned to avoid talking about. Rape. Moreover, MALE RAPE.
A new study reveals that men are often the victims of sexual assault, and women are often the perpetrators. – Hanna Rosin
There are a lot of myths and misconception about rape itself… When we think about rape, we automatically assume it is a crime that is committed against women and children. The statistics on adult male rape are not accurate simply because male rape is seldom reported. There is an overwhelming shroud of shame that comes along with rape that is unfathomable among male victims due to the misconception that arousal equals consent much like the misconception of a woman warranting sexual assault because of her attire.
In asking 40,000 households about rape and sexual violence, the survey uncovered that 38 percent of incidents were against men. – Hanna Rosin
Self blame, particularly for a male in a such a predicament, can be a psychological oppression that can fester as a result of being unable to speak out based on the general consensus. An erection is a physiological response to stimuli which is no different from when a doctor takes a mallet to a person’s knee. The real damage emerges when the adult male victim tries to wrap his head around what transpired. Sometimes, sexuality maybe called into question of the perpetrator is male as well.
It is extremely crucial we raise awareness and educate ourselves on the topic and educate others so that they are empowered. This can happen to anyone. No one deserves violation regardless of their attire, state of sobriety, or physiological response to stimuli.
Although the plot scenario has been exaggerated for entertainment purposes, the principles of power and control are present. Manipulation into self blame are all present as well. There are a few links below for more information if you would like to get a comprehensive understanding on rape, sexual violence, and the general misconceptions.
When Men Are Raped
Rape Myths and Facts