I had the pleasure to meet a remarkable young woman by the name of Mar Ortiz a few years ago. She is now a reality television star on a show called Big Women: Big Love . Recently, she found herself catapulted into an arena that is as courageous and inspiring as it is absurd. A photo and a statement… would soon be a platform of debate.
I love my love handles!
I scrolled upon this photo in my Facebook feed and I commended Mar because there is nothing more beautiful than being comfortable in your own skin. As this picture went viral and people began commenting, I was actually appalled at the thought that anyone would even suggest that Mar was “glorifying obesity.” That’s absolutely absurd! It is becoming harder and harder in this day and age to “be beautiful.” What is beauty? Is it running around scantily clad? Is it looking like a superhero? Is it systematically butchering your body parts to resemble a celebrity?
It’s absolutely ghastly and unnerving for someone to be scrutinized for appreciating their God given body. That concept within itself has been so lost in translation for some time. In a world of Photoshop, filters and plastic surgery … what’s so bad about posting a picture and being content with yourself.
Love yourself at any size or glorifying obesity?
Not everyone is petite, tall, thin, or even full figured. What is wrong with enjoying what you have and working it with confidence and acceptance? We must be careful with the type of message we are sending and be wary of it being lost in translation lest we raise a generation of self-loathing anorexics with a skewed perception of what beauty truly is.
From the outside it is very easy to point and shake a finger at people who put themselves out there. On the other hand.. “out… there..” are many people who maybe suffering for various reasons that are not afforded the opportunity to attempt to fit into this highly unrealistic ideal of beauty. In addition to what they are facing, they should not be made to feel that they cannot be happy within themselves or pleased with their appearance because it is seemingly is not acceptable to the norm.
Self-acceptance should be celebrated and woman like Mar empower others. In turn they should be supported and not blasted for simply being happy with who they are and proud of their appearance.