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TO BREED OR NOT TO BREED: the dreaded question.

There are so many reasons why a woman can find herself old enough to run for president and not yet ready to have a baby.  The top three reasons are relationship status, career, or health.

With the stay at home family model as common as, say a griffin or unicorn in our society, we are all the breadwinners pulling the same amount of long hours and dealing with insurmountable stressors that may not be equivalent but definitely relative to our daily disposition and capabilities.  There is no such thing as a part time mom even when you work full time.Most-90s-tastic-Got-Milk-Ads

Women spend the majority of their child bearing years establishing themselves with education and their careers these days.  Those fortunate enough to meet their partners early on may have the advantage to having children, but the single career woman may have to pay attention to how many times she hits snooze on that biological clock!

While there are so many options nowadays, many of them are costly.  To freeze your eggs will run you about the cost of a Honda Civic the first year and then you’d have to pay annually for daycare of your mini mes to keep them on ice.   Thereafter, ensues throwing the dice on whether the eggs survive the thaw.  Lots to consider, here.

Hitting snooze after 35 comes with an enormous amount of pressure from just about everyone like family, medical providers, and family…  (I said family twice: intentionally).  It’s almost as if you have a shelf life, like a gallon of milk that’s about to expire.  I have anxiety just thinking about it!

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First and foremost, the most important question one should ask herself is, “am I doing this because I was told I am supposed to do it before it is too late?  Or am I doing this because this is what I want at this time in my life?”  Also, if it doesn’t happen naturally or through IVF, there are so many children in this world who need loving parents and a home.  Adopting can be a less expensive alternative.  Perhaps even fostering a child for a while may be something to consider before adopting outright.

When you’re being told your biological clock sounds like the drum line in a marching band, remember that you have plenty of options and making life altering decisions because you are being pressured to isn’t the healthiest or most rewarding approach to anything in life.  Definitely do your research and make the decision on your own terms.  Below are some links to check out, if you’re interested in getting an over view of options.  If you have anything to add, please get on the soap box!



7 things every woman should know before freezing her eggs
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